Why we can’t regulate: Watching Due Process Vanish
I can’t remember the last time I read a headline that wasn’t traumatic.
I scroll, I pause to take a deep breath, I brace and still the news finds its way into my mind.
My clients come into session carrying the same headlines I am trying to process. They carry their own experiences of fear, loved ones being taken away, and hiding from a knock that could change their lives forever.
Our nervous systems are shot.
Not because we aren’t “self caring” enough, not because we’re broken, but shot from ongoing systemic threats. We are experiencing fatigue. Brain fog. Insomnia. Heart palpitations. Racing thoughts. Hypervigilance. Isolation. We are constantly reacting to a reality that is volatile.
We know the truth, our names could be next. We are no longer protected by things that once mattered: due process.
But something is worse. This is becoming normalized.
We are expected to hold what is happening and keep ‘“functioning.” The baseline we’d return to is no longer there.
I can’t regulate my way out of a system designed to deregulate me. The goal is no longer to feel calm. It is to feel SAFE.
And if we can’t have safety, then I refuse to regulate.
No voy a normalizar este tipo de vida. Seguire enojada hasta que cambien las cosas.